Boy oh boy BABY is here! When your birth plan goes amiss…

Here we are in the midst of the holiday season and I NEVER posted an official baby announcement.! Yikes, I’m behind. I took a 3 month maternity leave from any online work, but it is good to be back.

ZADEN PAUL CARLTON was born August 31 at 5:05pm. He was 5lb 8oz. We are so in love with our little man!


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I wrote a blog post about my gestational diabetes and how perfectly normal/healthy people can get it. Having diabetes while pregnant definitely was not in my “pregnancy plans” but it was the first step in God teaching me to become more trusting of HIS plans for me. Motherhood has already taught me so much — to let go of my perfect plans and my anxiety about the future and to place my trust in my all-knowing, sovereign God! I know I will probably be taught this lesson again and again through the years.

And Gestational Diabetes was only the first deviation from my plans…

My goal was to have my baby at a birth center as naturally as possible! I have always been interested in having a home birth, but my husband and I decided it would be better to have my first at a birth center in Sacramento in case anything went wrong *rolls eyes* I was pretty darn certain nothing would, my mom had 7 healthy pregnancies and births and her last one was in her 40’s! So, pshh I mean…come on, I’m only 24. What could go wrong? Surely I was in for a smooth natural pregnancy and delivery! I was so excited for a quiet, intimate birth with just the midwife, my husband, and mom. :)

So, first the news came that I had gestational diabetes… I was shocked! Honestly, I had never even heard of it. Thankfully, I was able to control it with dietary changes and so the midwife still felt comfortable with me having my baby there. That was util around 36 weeks when I was at a checkup and the midwife gave me a funny look after taking my blood pressure. She proceeded to take my blood pressure multiple times. She told me my blood pressure was elevated – but not to the point that I would need to be hospitalized. However, it continued to go up no matter how much I tried to “take it easy.” I was taken to the hospital and was there most of the night being tested and monitored and was finally sent home — conclusion = I didn’t have preeclampsia but I did have gestational hypertension. The next day I was sent in again (this time to a different hospital) and they concluded that the best thing for my baby and I was to get him out pf there. They also concluded that I did have preeclampsia (I was told so many different things, I’m not sure if I really did have it or not haha).

They were going to induce me.

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And that’s when I had to fully surrender my plans to the Lord. Here I was surrounded by strange doctors and med students, hooked up to a blood pressure monitor and IV, getting prepped for my induction… They laughed at the idea that I didn’t want an epidural and told me I needed magnesium or I my blood pressure would spike too high from the petocin and I could have a seizure…. after discussing (more like arguing) with all the different doctors, I was left with multiple stressful decisions that I wasn’t prepared to make. I am just so thankful I had my faithful husband by my side, supporting me and taking the lead with communicating with the doctors. I could not have gone through the birth without him, my labor delivery nurse friend, and my mom. They were an awesome team!

The labor was VERY painful, as the baby was face up, and being induced is no fun. But 13 hours later my tiny little boy was born!

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So that’s my story. Thankfully, nothing major did go wrong and I was still able to have a natural birth (besides the petocin). I was able to give birth to a beautiful, healthy son! And I know many people have scarier, more devastating birth stories than I do… Oh how my heart aches for them! And…oh my goodness did I learn why some people choose to get an epidural…OUCH 😉 there is absolutely no judgement on my part if you chose to get one haha. I felt led to share my story to encourage women to always hold their plans and desires with open hands. YES – it is still good to plan and dream. And yes, I still think natural birth is the best option. HOWEVER, things don’t always go as we plan and we have to be ok with that. We must have more trust and faith in God’s plan than our own.

What do I want you to take away from this?

  1. Hold onto your plans  and desires with open hands
  2. Trust your heavenly Father
  3. Don’t judge other. Everyone has a story and we don’t know it. So, before we proceed to inform someone that natural birth is best, listen to their story – be understanding – be loving.  

 

There is a time and place to gently encourage and help one another understand the benefits of a natural birth, but this must be done in a such a gentle way. As sister’s in Christ, our first priority should be to listen to each other and encourage one another as we all learn to trust the Lord with the future and live out our role as mothers – with all the crazy plan changes and stressful decision making that entails.

Thank you for listening. I’d love to hear your birth story!

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About Sienna Carlton

Sienna has a deep love for the Lord and is passionate about the ministry of homemakers. She also has a heart for creating a natural home! She has been married to her best friend, Brandon, for a little over a year and they have there first baby on the way! She loves to share about creating a healthy and thriving home and shares encouragement, recipes, tips, and tutorials at Homemaking From Scratch.

Comments

  1. Thank you so much for this post! I am in the middle of learning this same lesson right now. I’ve had two home births with a midwife and was planning a third in January. But due to some pretty serious complications, I am now on bed rest and expecting a hospital birth with an OB in the next couple of weeks. And they’re throwing around the word c-section an awful lot. Not only am I trying to wrap my brain around all these unexpected changes, but I’m also fairly certain this is our last baby and I’m mourning what was supposed to be another beautiful home birth. Sometimes I get overwhelmed with all the things that are unknown at the moment (I’m currently trying to get established with an OB at 34 weeks) as well as worry about how these complications will affect myself and our baby, but I keep trying to remind myself that none of this is a surprise to God and He has a much better plan than I could ever devise. But your post was exactly what I needed to read this morning. Thank you!

    • I am so glad my post was helpful. I know how hard a change of plans at the last minute can be :( I’m sorry! But yes, God is ultimately in control. How did the birth go??

      • It went as well as could be expected. I ended up making it to 37 weeks. I had my water broken in the Operating Room “just in case” but ended up being able to have a vaginal delivery! None of the very scary scenarios that they warned me about happened. God answered every single one of our prayers at exactly the right time! He is so good!!! My beautiful baby girl is now a happy, healthy 12 week old! Thanks again for your inspirational post!

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